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Potter, Writer, Blogger, Quiller, Avid Reader, Chatter Box, Traveller, Foodie, photo crazy, Orchid lover, FB addict, and an enthusiast.... I work on extremes... You'll either find me laughing insanely or discussing something seriously serious.... I suffer from a laughter disorder...I am a lover of arts and crafts and anything that's colorful, bright and beautiful which includes my plants and my little lovely birdies... I am a mad friend, an insane daughter, a crazy wife and an unconventional sister... I choose to love, laugh and live!! My smile is contagious....So be careful :)

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

The Mini Story!!

“Can you come and see me tomorrow at 11:00 am?” an assertive and strong voice asked me from the
other side of the phone.

“Errr....Tomorrow?” I asked failing to judge the urgency of the situation.

“Yes please… is there a problem?” The voice came quicker this time.

“No, that’s ok. I’ll make it at 11:00 am.” I confirmed.

I reached on time and was guided to her cabin by another employee working with her. The cabin looked like a typical room from a corporate housing a large circular wooden table, three chairs and a polyphone. Behind her seat was a painting that was beyond my understanding. Perhaps that was an abstract painting. The room was filled with a frail smell of some room freshener. As soon as I entered I was greeted by a petite woman, with beautiful eyes, a simple smile, dusky and radiant complexion,nails well manicured and a poise to fall for. Then I could relate to the voice I heard a day before.

That was my first encounter with Mini. The interview with her went on well. In fact most of it was a discussion. Soon I was offered and I joined the organization. She was the one I was to report to. During my initial days I was busy with the knowledge transfer and hardly had any time to interact with her. For records both of us are seated in different locations in Bangalore. Thus, most of our conversations were restricted to either official mails or the occasional telephonic ones.

To a stranger Mini would come across as a very assertive and curt woman. I recollect and laugh when I remember how I had named her “Hitler” and would rave about her over the top attitude. I was in the initial phase of settling in a new workplace and understanding the gaps to be bridged and she was confronting some ugly realities of life. So, to cut long story short we were often “rude” to each other. I felt she was not around to help me while I failed to understand that she was battling through some difficulties all alone. The funniest part is that we both were often irritated with each other.
But then…..everything changed.

We sailed through those tough times and drove throughout successfully. With situations demanding it, we started spending time with each other at work. This was an opportunity in disguise which we understand only now. With demanding schedules we started knowing each other more and more and more. Time passed by and before we could realize, she had already claimed her place as my mentor and    I happily found a place in a part of her heart (I take the liberty to say so).

Mini is not the micro manager type. She gives you all the space you need to do your work. But to be
honest, she is a task master. The most unusual thing about her is that she loves honest people. I still remember her telling me once, “If you don’t feel like working, tell me and go see the birds outside. But do not lie.” So we don’t need to lie to her. People who have suckers as managers envy me because I don’t have to create a story to her, ever. I call her and tell her the “truth”. Moreover, I can be myself with her.

I think the reason why I like her is because she is indisputably genuine. She is on your face. No buttering, no polishing and no sweet talks. She is to the point. And, she hates people sucking up to her to grow. Neither has she encouraged that ever nor does she do it herself. Perhaps, this is what sets her apart. And honestly while I type this, I am still in complete ambiguity whether to post it or just let it be. J

She has immense knowledge on our field of work. Perhaps it’s because of her pedigree over the years
and her experiences through life’s thick and thin. She is determined and can push you to the edge too. She hates pessimists and for us is the driving force behind everything we do. She has brought together a   team that worked individually. Today we all swear by her. We look up to her as a mentor, guide, and most of the times as a Mother Figure. We have the liberty to open up our hearts to her and she shows concern. Though I still call her Hitler sometimes and giggle at it.

To tell you, Mini has a softer side too. Yeah, yeah, I know it is difficult to believe this especially for
someone who has been living her principles all her life. But trust me it is true. All of us bond with Mini mainly on pottery, quilling, painting and all that arty crafty stuff. Mini has this innate inclination towards all the earthy stuff that extends anywhere on the globe. Her hands automatically wave through the clay and out comes lovely little earthlings that are further sprinkled with vibrant colors. She can turn an ugly little thing in to a thing of beauty. In fact her art has become the talk of town in our office. Most of us have a lovely creation of hers gleefully beautifying our cubicles and cabins. Her vase/clay painting is so marvelous that we are bugging her to open up an online store so that the world can see what she holds within herself. When I was introduced to this creative side of her, I just couldn’t believe myself.

Well, all you can do is just be in awe with Mini. She carries herself with grace and pride. She is not
someone you can fall in love immediately. To love her, you have to know her and the more you know
her, the more you love her. Beneath this brisk, exacting and determined lady, lies a very subtle, gentle and warm woman whose heart melts with a word of love. She guides us, pushes us to do well and silently stands behind while we gather the glory of the world. Perhaps that’s what mentors are for.

Mini, as we celebrate your birthday, all of us wish you all the joys and wealth of the world. May god give you all that your loving heart desires for.

Thursday, January 17, 2013

The Indelible Truth!!

Inside it runs, makes noise, laughs, screams and makes me feel it’s presence. I run from it, yes I have been running all my life. But now it catches me by my neck, stands in front of me, stares at me, eye to eye. I still try to run, run as fast as I can. It chases me. I hide but I can’t. I want to live believing it doesn’t exist but it talks. It speaks of the harsh and ugly reality. I see its dirty side and I turn my face, away from it.

I know I can’t help it. It will exist, inside me, in front of me, around me, everywhere. Either today or tomorrow I will have to accept. But how??? Oh how??? How do I tell this to the little mass of blood that beats inside me? It does not accept neither believes. It fails, terribly. I weep, sob, cry and rave, helplessly. But nothing changes. The dark light engulfs me in its killing silence. The voice will never be heard. The eyes will never see. But every cell will feel it.

She is gone, very very far. The era ends. Or perhaps a new era begins. A new start. She will find peace, love and warmth. I smile. The silence speaks. The darkness fades away. Subtle rays of peace touch upon me. I hear her voice inside me, just like always. She laughs. She smiles. She is happy. Away from the clutches of mortality, she lives with the divine. She looks beautiful just like ever or may be more. She is free.

She holds my hand with affection. I know she is here. Nothing is lost. Its the mortal world that loses. The spiritual world still connects. She touches my heart with love.

I shall face the truth. I shall not run anymore. I shall see in to it’s eye. I shall accept. It is the indelible truth. But I am not scared anymore.

Nothing changes. She is and will always my beloved. I love her and she loves me. Love lives forever. She embraces me. I feel the divinity. I feel her love inside me, in every cell. Yes, there is a truth that exists, death is indelible. But then there is another truth that lives in parallel. Love is forever beyond the reach of everything.

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

When someone belittle's you..... Just move on!!

Scene 1: July 29th 2008 - Evening

Maa was laughing at me while I was sobbing inconsolably. “It’s alright child. People say things and you should learn to ignore them and move on. It happens with everyone. And who is she to even decide anything about my child? I believe in you so wipe your tears my silly girl."

Ok, I said wiping my silly tears.

Time is a great healer and a very wonderful teacher, Khushi. You don’t have to waste your time explaining anyone, especially to people who don’t matter to you. Leave it to TIME and God. You just focus on your career and work towards your goal. Time has it’s own way of answering everyone."

Maa told this to me while I was weeping over a silly remark passed by someone. In spite of all this pacifying, for sometime that silly remark did hurt me. Not because it was a negative remark but because it came from someone who hardly knew me. Of course, I have moved on from there a long time ago and now when I look back, I laugh at the whole incident. So why am I sharing this with you? Because as Maa said, Time has answered back.

Scene 2: The same day morning (July 29th 2008)

Ms A: oh thats great
12:39 PM so if u resign the job??? how will u manage
12:40 PM Me: y?
  lots of opportunities in B'lore yaar!
 Ms A: its a good profile na
 Me: wil look out for options there
12:41 PM yeah!! wil chk out for the same profile there
 Ms A: ask for a transfer so it'l be helpful
 Me: nope
  want to take a break for 2 - 3 months
12:42 PM Ms A: hmm okies thats a good idea too
 Me: want to spend time with my hubby and family
 Ms A: thats good
12:43 PM Me: hmmm!!
  I wil get this profile anywhere
  have got experience
 Ms A: thts true there are lot of oppurtunities here too
12:44 PM try in XYZ
12:45 PM going for lunch catch u later
These messages were sent while you were offline.

1:13 PM Ms A: in XYZ u may not get the same profile.. not the asst mgr post... i just checked

Just to give you a background, before this conversation, I had met this person just once and we had hardly known each other. In fact she had absolutely no idea about anything related to me. Let us call her Ms.A. She and her husband Mr.B were close relatives of my husband. It was after a few days of my engagement with my husband and was trying to get to know his folks. That’s when I met Ms.A. The mad woman that I was or may be I still am, I immediately added her to my chat list. We started chatting about random stuff. She often told me about the many diamonds she and her mother possessed and how they never bothered to even touch them. And how big her employer is and that how difficult it is to get through this employer. How she was so darn uninterested in marrying her husband but just because he insisted and was chasing her, she got engaged to him. Time passed by and her diamonds or employer never really mattered. For me she was a part of my new family and I wanted to give her, her share of respect, that’s it.

One day during a casual chat she made a very personal remark,which was absurd. She mentioned that I will not get a job at her employer. I was taken aback with her statement. In fact it was after I had logged out from the chat that she left this message behind. Perhaps she did not have enough patience to say this when I meet up with her. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. How could she say this? Who is she to even comment on me? Shouldn’t people just mind their own business instead of trying to belittle others? I did not ask her to find a job for me.

I was just 3 years old in my career then. That’s the time when we learn new things, have so many aspirations and look forward to our family to stand by us.Anyway, but it was a forgotten memory until something happened today….

I received a call in the evening from an employer who offered me an exciting role and a very lucrative position in their organization. During the course of the discussion I realized it was the same XYZ organization where I wouldn't get a job according to Ms.A. In fact Ms.A also made an effort to check it(funny woman).  Unfortunately I had to refuse the offer because at this point in time it was not in sync with my career goals. The person calling me was very warm and we agreed to catch up again in the near future when both of us are on the same page. I thanked him for this opportunity.

Please don't get me wrong. There is nothing great in getting a job offer and I have a huge respect towards the organisation for its achievements. In fact I strongly believe that being humble goes a long way. It is just that I wanted to share this episode and my experience with all of you.

How silly was I! I was disappointed by something so small. The entire incident flashed in front of my eyes. Words resonated in my ears. I smiled and thanked God for giving me enough wisdom to move on. I am glad I did not waste my precious time in explaining Ms. A about my capabilities. I am happy that I did not get in to any argument with her. To tell you the truth, I have chopped off my connections with Ms. A and her husband because our wavelength's just don't match. I am better off without people who have shallow thoughts. It is not selfish to walk away from something that drains you of happiness and peace.

I called up Maa and shared everything with her. I thanked her for guiding me through this funny episode. Maa had a hearty laugh first and then said, I am happy for you child. See, time answers everyone. Now don’t get carried away and close this chapter immediately. You have more to life than this silly incident.I also shared this with my mentor and then she shared her experiences on how so many belittled her. How people said cynical things about her too. But it seems, the more they said she can’t, the stronger she became and proved that she can. I was getting inspired by these two lovely women in my life.

The whole episode ended when my Mentor and I laughed our heart out when I told her that Ms. A and her husband went a step ahead from this. In fact they sent their CTC( salary) and their job description along with their designation to us(to me and my husband)hand written on a piece of paper freshly torn from an LIC diary. Unfortunately they used their parents to get the letter delivered to us with a message that I(ME) was not capable enough to get a job with XYZ employer. When my relatives handed over the paper to us, my husband and I laughed like a bunch of mad people.Right now, I feel so tempted to share that piece of paper with you, I am mean, ain't I? My mentor couldn’t believe that such people exist in reality and not in those daily soaps. She said while trying not to giggle, “Every family has at least one such funny and annoying master piece”. We laughed even louder.

I am sure all of you are laughing too. I am also certain that even you have come across the likes of at least one Ms. A and Mr.B. But move on. Do not waste your time explaining and proving yourself. Also, do not keep a grudge. Forgive them. This is what differentiates you from them. TIME does have an answer for everyone and everything only if we are willing to wait. Patience is a virtue. So if someone tries you knock you down, don’t bother. Always remember "No one can belittle you, unless you let them to." Make yourself stronger and keep working towards your goal. TIME is above all. The wheel can turn anytime. Remember, Karma doesn't spare anyone.

And while you are striving your way through such people and need instant relief, just read the quote below. I found it very interesting and it works, trust me.

Have you also experienced something similar? Tell me, it will be fun knowing your experience too. 

Blissfully Happy,


Monday, January 7, 2013

Resolution – 2013!!

The title sounds like a novel packed with drama, emotion, action and comedy isn’t it? But resolutions are not devoid of any of these. Ask a person who has been struggling to keep up with the New Year resolutions every year. I am absolutely awful at keeping up with them. So this year I decided to post my resolutions on my blog. That will bring in some sense of responsibility towards my resolutions (I am just hopeful) and I am positive that I’ll able to achieve them, this year at least.

All these years I never thought of segregating my goals in to small achievable milestones. So they either  looked impractical or absolutely unattainable. Moreover I was never specific in designing them. Somehow I thought I could manage. Yeah yeah, you are right I over-estimated my capabilities. Thus this year, I plan to split my resolutions in to small achievable goals or milestones and then measure them regularly (This is what I learnt in one of those corporate trainings). I am also going to reward myself with a nice book that I am desperate to read (Books are such wonderful friends and the best antidotes) or may be cook some exotic dish to treat my taste buds,  only if I achieve my goals. Wouldn't it be fun?

I am not going to share the milestones here because they are really funnyJ. But what is life without a
tinge of humor to it?

So here we begin with Resolution 2013:

1. Stay fit, Stay healthy: Last year I have been completely ignorant of my health. I think I overrated my immunity or undervalued the bacteria, virus and all those tiny little beings that surround us. Thus ended up with throat infections and asthma issues on multiple occasions. I was too busy working and then realized that every time I fell sick my home turned upside down. For all obvious reasons, I just couldn't take care of my family, my home or my work. So my first and foremost resolution is to take care of myself and do whatever it takes to be healthy.

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Resolution: Be a little more disciplined which means more time for exercise, meditation and perhaps a little more yoga.

2. Keep in touch with my near and dear ones: Life has been terribly hectic all through 2012. Apart from my parents I was barely able to stay in touch with anyone. Friends often called up and I
ended up in messaging, “busy L call ya later” or just couldn’t talk to them enough. I always
thought I would catch up with them later, but later never arrived and I lost on the precious time I
could have spent with them. Such an irony of life that we work so hard to make money but then
we lose on to the real wealth of life. The wealth of love that family and friends bestow upon us.

Resolution: I’ll ensure that I am available for my loved ones and spend enough and quality time with them (even if it’s on the phone/ email / IM or whatever new comes up. These day’s "What’s App" is in, isn’t’ it?).

3. Complete my courses: I have enrolled myself for two academic courses each of which are
important and can help me with my long term goals. But travelling and managing other stuff
leaves me with almost no time to study. Yeah, the same time excuse again. However, it’s been
enough now. Enough of falling prey to procrastination and non sense excuses. Time to organize
myself and be more persistent with my studies. Whoever said, “No gain without pain” must have
either been a finance student or a procrastination KING or QUEEN.

Resolution: Time to organize myself to take out time for my studies and have an attainable target.
The student in me is sleeping already…zzzzzzzz J (You can ignore the sleeping part)

4. Write more, Read more: Books have been my constant companion all through my life. In fact I spend 3 hours a day travelling and that’s the time when I read a lot. That means almost 3 hours of
reading each day. Great. In fact 2012 brought me closer to many Indian authors’. I hope I continue reading in 2013 also. But writing took a back seat. I hardly wrote anything throughout last year. In fact my blogs were rarely updated too. Baaad!! I have to ensure to write at least one page each day. That's an achievable target. Again this calls for organization and some perseverance. But nothing comes for free, does it?

Resolution: I have to write more and more and as much as possible…. Perhaps I can start with my blog itself. What say?

5. Positive in - Negative Out: Negative people, emotions, thoughts can just drain you of your
happiness, enthusiasm and peace. They can rob you of hope and faith on God and his goodness.
Yet, many of us will agree that we continue to tolerate negative thoughts and people in our lives
for whatever reasons. I once thought that if I distance myself from some of the negative people
in my life, I will be selfish. But as time passed by I realized that I was wrong. It is not at all selfish
to be positive and happy. We can’t change others, but we can certainly decide and choose our
company. We all get just one life and we have a choice on how to spend it, by sulking in the
negativity or by being blissfully happy. The choice is ours.

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Resolution: To focus on positive thoughts and the blessings of my life, to be more assertive and say “No” when needed.

The journey begins with an aspiration that I shall conquer the world....I'll share updates about my journey and its experiences with all of you regularly.

By the way, what is your New Year Resolution?? Share with me, I am listening.

Happy as ever,