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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

When someone belittle's you..... Just move on!!

Scene 1: July 29th 2008 - Evening

Maa was laughing at me while I was sobbing inconsolably. “It’s alright child. People say things and you should learn to ignore them and move on. It happens with everyone. And who is she to even decide anything about my child? I believe in you so wipe your tears my silly girl."

Ok, I said wiping my silly tears.

Time is a great healer and a very wonderful teacher, Khushi. You don’t have to waste your time explaining anyone, especially to people who don’t matter to you. Leave it to TIME and God. You just focus on your career and work towards your goal. Time has it’s own way of answering everyone."

Maa told this to me while I was weeping over a silly remark passed by someone. In spite of all this pacifying, for sometime that silly remark did hurt me. Not because it was a negative remark but because it came from someone who hardly knew me. Of course, I have moved on from there a long time ago and now when I look back, I laugh at the whole incident. So why am I sharing this with you? Because as Maa said, Time has answered back.

Scene 2: The same day morning (July 29th 2008)

Ms A: oh thats great
12:39 PM so if u resign the job??? how will u manage
12:40 PM Me: y?
  lots of opportunities in B'lore yaar!
 Ms A: its a good profile na
 Me: wil look out for options there
12:41 PM yeah!! wil chk out for the same profile there
 Ms A: ask for a transfer so it'l be helpful
 Me: nope
  want to take a break for 2 - 3 months
12:42 PM Ms A: hmm okies thats a good idea too
 Me: want to spend time with my hubby and family
 Ms A: thats good
12:43 PM Me: hmmm!!
  I wil get this profile anywhere
  have got experience
 Ms A: thts true there are lot of oppurtunities here too
12:44 PM try in XYZ
12:45 PM going for lunch catch u later
These messages were sent while you were offline.

1:13 PM Ms A: in XYZ u may not get the same profile.. not the asst mgr post... i just checked

Just to give you a background, before this conversation, I had met this person just once and we had hardly known each other. In fact she had absolutely no idea about anything related to me. Let us call her Ms.A. She and her husband Mr.B were close relatives of my husband. It was after a few days of my engagement with my husband and was trying to get to know his folks. That’s when I met Ms.A. The mad woman that I was or may be I still am, I immediately added her to my chat list. We started chatting about random stuff. She often told me about the many diamonds she and her mother possessed and how they never bothered to even touch them. And how big her employer is and that how difficult it is to get through this employer. How she was so darn uninterested in marrying her husband but just because he insisted and was chasing her, she got engaged to him. Time passed by and her diamonds or employer never really mattered. For me she was a part of my new family and I wanted to give her, her share of respect, that’s it.

One day during a casual chat she made a very personal remark,which was absurd. She mentioned that I will not get a job at her employer. I was taken aback with her statement. In fact it was after I had logged out from the chat that she left this message behind. Perhaps she did not have enough patience to say this when I meet up with her. I couldn’t believe what I was reading. How could she say this? Who is she to even comment on me? Shouldn’t people just mind their own business instead of trying to belittle others? I did not ask her to find a job for me.

I was just 3 years old in my career then. That’s the time when we learn new things, have so many aspirations and look forward to our family to stand by us.Anyway, but it was a forgotten memory until something happened today….

I received a call in the evening from an employer who offered me an exciting role and a very lucrative position in their organization. During the course of the discussion I realized it was the same XYZ organization where I wouldn't get a job according to Ms.A. In fact Ms.A also made an effort to check it(funny woman).  Unfortunately I had to refuse the offer because at this point in time it was not in sync with my career goals. The person calling me was very warm and we agreed to catch up again in the near future when both of us are on the same page. I thanked him for this opportunity.

Please don't get me wrong. There is nothing great in getting a job offer and I have a huge respect towards the organisation for its achievements. In fact I strongly believe that being humble goes a long way. It is just that I wanted to share this episode and my experience with all of you.

How silly was I! I was disappointed by something so small. The entire incident flashed in front of my eyes. Words resonated in my ears. I smiled and thanked God for giving me enough wisdom to move on. I am glad I did not waste my precious time in explaining Ms. A about my capabilities. I am happy that I did not get in to any argument with her. To tell you the truth, I have chopped off my connections with Ms. A and her husband because our wavelength's just don't match. I am better off without people who have shallow thoughts. It is not selfish to walk away from something that drains you of happiness and peace.

I called up Maa and shared everything with her. I thanked her for guiding me through this funny episode. Maa had a hearty laugh first and then said, I am happy for you child. See, time answers everyone. Now don’t get carried away and close this chapter immediately. You have more to life than this silly incident.I also shared this with my mentor and then she shared her experiences on how so many belittled her. How people said cynical things about her too. But it seems, the more they said she can’t, the stronger she became and proved that she can. I was getting inspired by these two lovely women in my life.

The whole episode ended when my Mentor and I laughed our heart out when I told her that Ms. A and her husband went a step ahead from this. In fact they sent their CTC( salary) and their job description along with their designation to us(to me and my husband)hand written on a piece of paper freshly torn from an LIC diary. Unfortunately they used their parents to get the letter delivered to us with a message that I(ME) was not capable enough to get a job with XYZ employer. When my relatives handed over the paper to us, my husband and I laughed like a bunch of mad people.Right now, I feel so tempted to share that piece of paper with you, I am mean, ain't I? My mentor couldn’t believe that such people exist in reality and not in those daily soaps. She said while trying not to giggle, “Every family has at least one such funny and annoying master piece”. We laughed even louder.

I am sure all of you are laughing too. I am also certain that even you have come across the likes of at least one Ms. A and Mr.B. But move on. Do not waste your time explaining and proving yourself. Also, do not keep a grudge. Forgive them. This is what differentiates you from them. TIME does have an answer for everyone and everything only if we are willing to wait. Patience is a virtue. So if someone tries you knock you down, don’t bother. Always remember "No one can belittle you, unless you let them to." Make yourself stronger and keep working towards your goal. TIME is above all. The wheel can turn anytime. Remember, Karma doesn't spare anyone.

And while you are striving your way through such people and need instant relief, just read the quote below. I found it very interesting and it works, trust me.

Have you also experienced something similar? Tell me, it will be fun knowing your experience too. 

Blissfully Happy,


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